14 Blow Job Sex Positions That Do It for You Too
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If you have a penis in front of your mouth and are wondering what to do, here's some secret wisdom from experts on how to give a truly stellar BJ. (Caveat: every penis is different, so assess and revise as necessary.)
Get handsy.
“Anything you can do with your mouth and tongue, you can do with your hands, with greater flexibility and dexterity,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, Resident Sexologist at Astroglide. Play with their balls, stroke their shaft with two hands, press your thumb onto their perineum (the area between their balls and anus) as they are having an orgasm.
Moisturize!
“No one likes dry rub and friction during a blow job, so make sure that you use moist saliva or have edible lube on hand to help you easily slide your mouth up, down, and around him,” says Alex Etienam, a sex counselor who specializes in sex therapy for transgender individuals and couples.
Google “frenulum.”
“Appreciate the frenulum. The frenulum is the most sensitive part along with the head of the cock so give those parts attention by flicking your tongue,” says Etienam.
Try the “granny mouth.”
“Pull your lips into your mouth. This creates a tight suction feel as you move up and down,” says Kay Johnson, Founder of Let's Get Kinky.
Just add water.
”Take a big sip of water and let a little dribble out onto their penis. Hold some water in your mouth as they enter. This will help you start out with a wet mouth and incorporates some temperature play,” says Rachael Zevecke, sex hacker and female empowerment coach.
Look lustfully into their eyes.
“Make eye contact throughout, and look up at them with their penis in your mouth,” says Zevecke.“It's also a sexy way to check in and see the lust in their eyes, which I'm a sucker for.”
Watch yourselves.
“Kneel in front of a full-length mirror while your partner stands and watches,” says Sarah Riccio, queer sex educator and co-founder Delicto.com. “This position creates the perfect angle for deep throating. And if you’re into it, try playing up the gagging and choking sounds a bit for your partner’s auditory pleasure.”
(Pssst: if you aren't into the BJs that's totally fine—don't do it! However, if you're game to try but need some adjustments/help, here are some ideas if you don't know wtf to do with your tongue, or if you don't like swallowing or deep throating or are looking for some go-to moves to make them lose it.)
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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