20 Super-Hot Masturbation Positions for Your Next Solo Sesh
Consider these tips and tricks a gift from you to you.
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Not that you really need any justification for masturbation, but there are plenty of completely legit reasons to take to your bed with a bottle of lube and your favorite toy. “Masturbation is an incredible way to participate in self-care—there are stress-relieving elements, a release of feel-good hormones in the brain (dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin), and the simple fact that it can feel really good,” says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland.
Solo play is great on its own, but knowing exactly what does it for you will also make partnered sex much more satisfying. “Masturbating provides a space that’s only about you—no worrying about what you look or sound like, no thinking about the satisfaction or wants of anyone other than yourself—which makes it a great venue to explore your body and discover the different ways you can turn yourself on,” says Finn.
So it’s just you and you, and y’all are ready to get down. Now what? Finn recommends masturbating without the goal of orgasm. That way, you can focus on discovering what feels good. “Explore different erogenous zones, different sensations: using your fingers/hands, incorporating toys or vibrators, changing up pace and pressure, grinding or humping, switching up positions or even where you masturbate (solo shower sex, anyone?),” says Finn. If you finish, fantastic. If not, you’re still reaping all the benefits of masturbation. Thank you, feel-good hormones.
Plus, it’s also a great way to explore what turns you on unabashedly, in the privacy of your own space. “Nobody needs to know what you do when you’re by yourself—it’s your body, no one else’s. Try new techniques or explore different kinks to see if they’re your cup of tea. There should be zero shame,” says Finn.
Show yourself an extra good time with these expert tips.
Try Edging
If you haven’t heard of edging, make it your goal to try it ASAP. It’s a technique where you get yourself close to the point of orgasm, then stop right before you finish. “Every time you do it, you build the intensity of the sensations, so by the time you let yourself go, it’s like a freight train,” says sex expert Piri Miller, founder of couples sex toy company Come Play.
Test Out Different Spots
Masturbation can be so much more than just genital touch. Ob-gyn Renée Hilliard, MD, a sex and relationships coach, suggests touching any part of your body that feels good, including your neck, lips, nipples, belly, thighs, and feet. “Experiment with different speeds of touch and stroking. You can pinch, tap, go up and down, side to side, make circles using whole hand or just one or two fingers. Try cupping the vulva with your hand and making hip circles. It’s your body, show it a good time.
Surprise Yourself
Sarah Riccio, queer sex educator and cofounder of Delicto.com, suggests changing your masturbation venue to make the act feel more erotic and exciting. “If you always masturbate in bed, take some waterproof toys into the shower for an extra wet ménage à moi. Or if you’re really in the mood to admire yourself, head to the room with the biggest mirror and give yourself a show. Watching your reflection enjoy a powerful orgasm will have you feeling yourself in more ways than one.”
If you’re looking to mix it up or just really impress yourself, here are some position recommendations to take for a little solo spin.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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