We know being physically far from the person you love can be a huge bummer, but that doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer! Gone are the days when spicy letters or emails were the closest you could get to intimacy in a long-distance relationship—technology has caught up in a big way, and we’re not just talking about phone sex or FaceTime. Long-distance sex toys can give you the same delicious orgasms your partner can IRL, and if you’re pairing them with those aforementioned virtual sex options, you’ve got the foolproof magic pleasure combo of your dreams.
When it comes to picking the perfect long-distance sex toys, you’ve got options. A lot of toys come with Bluetooth-enabled features that let your partner control them via app from wherever they are, including the speed, intensity, or functions of your favorite vibe. "There are even toys that sync together so when you're using them, they coordinate the same pattern, creating a sense that you're together and experiencing the same sensations, even from afar,” says certified sexologist Gigi Engle.
And while, yes, these are designed to be used by long-distance couples, you don’t have to miss out on all the app-controlled fun if you're in the same city—they can still be used when you’re close by but still want to get covertly frisky. “You or your partner can wear it out at dinner together, or have your partner control your toy while you’re doing something as mundane as grocery shopping or folding laundry,” says Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and sex expert for Momentum Intimacy. “It's also a great way to engage in foreplay. When you or your partner get home from work, you'll want to jump each other's bones.”
Ready to peruse? Here are a few of our faves, ICYWW.
Our top picks for long-distance sex toys for 2022:
While remote-control sex toys are undeniably hot, these Bluetooth-enabled devices are seriously high-tech, since you can control them from across the world, not just across the room—plus, you never have to worry about losing the remote! Here are some of the best long-distance vibrators you can snag right now to make your partner moan from any distance.
1. We-Vibe Chorus
Pros
- Comes with a squeeze remote that makes the vibration stronger the tighter you squeeze
- USB rechargeable
Cons
- Not a ton of speed options
- Some reviewers say the features are cool but tricky to master
Perhaps the best-known couples toy out there, the Chorus is intended for wear during penetrative sex, but it'll give ya plenty of internal and external stimulation if you're using it solo, too. You'll love that it can be controlled from legit any place using the We-Vibe app, and the fact that it has 10 different vibe modes (as well as touch-sensitive receptors and a squeeze-activated remove) doesn't hurt, either.
THE REVIEWS: "This is a game-changer! It changed our sex life so much," one review reads. "My BF and I climax at the same time whenever we use Chorus and it is amazing. Each vibration mode is a totally different sensation. Get it!"
2. Zalo Nave Vibrating Nipple Clamps
Pros
- Dual motors in each clamp
- Comes with additional clamp tips for different nipple sizes
- Includes a remote-control option that lets your partner control them from the same room
Cons
- Slightly on the pricier side for nipple clamps
Have you ever seen a cuter pair of nipple clamps?! This set from Zalo is designed with their "EasyClamp" technology, where all you have to do is pinch the bottom sides to open up the clamps and slide them on. They also come with two motors in each clamp (yep, that's four motors total), so you already know they're going to be powerful as hell. And with eight vibration modes and Zalo Remote Pro App compatibility (which lets your partner control them via Bluetooth from anywhere in the world), the only thing that makes these clamps even better is the fact that they come with four different silicone attachments, so you can be sure they'll fit your nips comfortably.
3. Clone-A-Willy Create Your Own Penis Molding Kit
Pros
- Doubles as a fun date-night activity
- You get a realistic mold of your partner's peen
- Comes with an insertable vibrator for added stim
Cons
- Vibrator is battery-operated (aka: not waterproof!)
- Could get messy
This kit comes with everything you need to create a silicone mold of your penis-having-partner's peen, so even when they're far away, you still (technically??) have a part of them with you. The kit includes a molding tube, algae-based molding powder, silicone mix, a thermometer, stirring stick, and (perhaps best of all) it comes with a battery-operated vibrator that you can insert into the finished mold. Consider this a quirky, unique date-night activity that will, at minimum, give you a few good laughs. And at best? Well, you get to keep a mold of your partner's penis. Wins all around!
THE REVIEWS: "This was fun to make and use with my partner," wrote one reviewer. "It requires a certain level of attention to detail while crafting the toy, as well as a certain level of concentration (to maintain the posture). The final product is a unique memory you can keep for years."
4. Zalo Fanfan Couples Massager
Pros
- Ideal for wear during penetrative sex for rumbly vibrations that can be enjoyed by both partners
- Comes with a cute and discreet storage box
Cons
- Certainly not cheap in terms of price-point
This couples vibrator is a true can't-lose situation. It's designed to be worn by people with vaginas during penetrative sex, so that the internal part stimulates you with vibrations from the inside, while the external part stimulates both your clit and your penis-having partner. But! It also has Bluetooth app connectivity, which means that even if you're long-distance, you can still wear it during solo-play and have your partner control it from wherever they are. With eight rumbly vibration modes, this vibe is USB-rechargeable, water-resistant, and comes with a cute satin pouch and pretty storage box.
THE REVIEWS: One reviewer wrote: "It was the fastest and longest orgasm I've seen my wife have. She got there in close to three minutes and the orgasm seemed to last two minutes."
5. OhMiBod Fuse
Pros
- Allows for "bi-directional" control, so either one of you can decide what it does
- LED light that glows in response to different vibrations
Cons
- Not water-proof
This v cool dual-stim massager is Bluetooth-enabled with two-way communication, so you and your boo can share your pleasure from A-N-Y-W-H-E-R-E with the OhMiBod app—not to mention the built-in sensor technology allows for bi-directional control, so either of you can drive the action. And because the Fuse was developed in partnership with Kiiroo, this bb is compatible with the Kiiroo Keon stroker and other interactive Kiiroo devices.
THE REVIEWS: "My partner lives in another part of the state, and we thought this might be fun when we can't physically be together," one tester writes. "I've never spent this much on a vibrator before though! It's nice to look at and feels really good. Great orgasms as well."
6. We-Vibe Melt
We-Vibe Melt
We-Vibe Melt
Pros
- 12 (!) speed options
- Runs for up to two hours on a single charge
- Comes with a two-year warranty
Cons
- Some reviewers say it could take a second to find the right angle
- Some reviewers also say the speeds could be a little *too* powerful
This ultra-smooth clit-sucking vibe may not look like anything special, but it’s seriously next-level. As well as offering 12 levels of clit-pleasing intensity, this smart device can be controlled by a remote or by the We-Vibe app. It also has one of the slimmest designs when it comes to suction toys, making it great for IRL partnered sex in addition to long-distance play.
THE REVIEWS: "By far the best toy I have ever purchased," says one reviewer. "...Really easy to connect to the app, too, and works perfectly with connecting a partner to it, no matter how far away they are. The chat feature on the app is really useful as you don’t have to go to other apps or phone calls to sext...10/10 through and through."
7. Satisfyer Curvy 3+
Pros
- Provides both suction AND vibration functions
- 11 intensities and 10 vibration patterns
Cons
- Much bigger than it looks, which makes it not-ideal for public play
Similar to the We-Vibe Melt (but way less $$$), this cutie offers a blend of air pulse stimulation and intense vibration for a very good time. It's got two rumbly motors, TONS of wave intensities and vibe settings, and the ability to use it with or without the Satisfyer Connect app.
THE REVIEWS: "Quietest toy I've ever owned!" one reviewer writes. "Wish the vibration was stronger but the suction is stellar. Had a blast letting my boyfriend create my experience via the app. Hot AF!"
8. LOVENSE Lush 3
LOVENSE Lush 3
LOVENSE Lush 3
Pros
- Five hours of continuous use per charge
- Can sync to music
- App comes with a video chat feature
Cons
- Only three speeds and four patterns
Wanna try your hand at the most powerful Bluetooth remote control vibrator? Able to be used at close range or long distances with the LOVENSE app, this wearable egg vibe from LOVENSE features a U-shaped tail design that hugs your body and helps it stay right in place. It's fairly discreet, wildly strong, and has v reliable connectivity—what more could ya want?
THE REVIEWS: "Honestly I couldn't be happier with this!!!" writes one tester. "My girlfriend lives 1,800 miles away and this just helps make things sooo much better. I mean, the best would actually being with her, but having her control it and just have her way is amazingggg."
9. SVAKOM Ella Neo
Pros
- Great for sneaky use on-the-go
- 10 vibration modes
- A good beginner-vibe
Cons
- Some reviewers complained about the remote's connectivity
Made with silky-smooth silicone and featuring a cool ribbed design, this mighty egg vibe from SVAKOM packs a serious punch. Its got 11 vibration modes, the perfect shape for vaginal or anal pleasure, and can be controlled three ways: with the button on the egg, the button on the retrieval cord, or the handy SVAKOM app.
THE REVIEWS: According to one review, "I wasn’t expecting much, since I’ve ordered similar products in the past that didn’t meet my expectations, but this one definitely made it into my good books. The app is easy to use, it’s not battery powered, anyone with the app can use it (even cities away), and when it’s fully charged, the power of the vibrations are perfect."
10. LOVENSE Ferri
LOVENSE Ferri
LOVENSE Ferri
Pros
- Customizable vibration patterns
- Comes with an alarm feature that can literally wake you up to vibrations
Cons
- Some reviewers say it's louder than expected
The Ferri panty vibe is LOVENSE app-enabled and lets you create up to 10 of your own vibration patterns using different speeds and patterns. This panty vibe is also small enough to tuck into your favorite pair of undies, and it's got a handy magnet to hold it into place.
THE REVIEWS: "This product is amazinggggg for long distance relationships and even solo play," says one tester. "All different kinds of patterns, or you can make your own. Battery life lasts pretty well and it’s pretty discreet and stays in place well. I’d say that it is just a tad louder than what I expected, but I think that setting can be adjusted in the app. I’d definitely 100 percent recommend this—especially to long distance couples."
11. We-Vibe Moxie
Pros
- Comes with a nifty remote for close-range control
- BUT can also be controlled from anywhere in the world via the free We-Vibe app
- Strong magnet keeps it in place
Cons
- Could be a little loud if using in public
Like the LOVENSE Ferri, the Moxie has a magnetic attachment that lets you use it with any pair of undies for max versatility. It’s got super strong, rumbly, deep vibrations, and can be controlled from anywhere in the world using the We-Vibe app or the included remote control. There are over 10 modes, it’s rechargeable, and it's waterproof should you wanna wear it in the hot tub.
THE REVIEWS: "I was kind of skeptical about Moxie at first and was worried it wouldn't be very good," reads one review. "I'll say that with the remote, it's more like a 2 ½ or 3 out of 5. Paired with the We-Vibe app? 5 out of 5. I haven't had any pairing or connection issues thus far and it's extremely easy to use. There's a ton of customization in the vibration and you can even set it to music???? It's definitely worth the money and eons better than most other wearable vibes."
12. SVAKOM Phoenix Neo
SVAKOM Phoenix Neo
Pros
- Can be used for prostate stimulation
- 10+ vibrating frequencies
- Great for both solo and partnered play
Cons
- Only runs for an hour on a one-hour charge
Another great option from SVAKOM's Connecxion Series, this wearable vibe has got an LED indicator that lights up the tip of the tail and creates a synchronized experience with the vibrations of the toy. Fun!! Reviewers love it for the 11 vibe frequencies, the waterproof design, and the freedom to control it remotely with the SVAKOM app.
THE REVIEWS: As one reviewer writes, "Just received [and] didn’t know what to expect, but I was pleasantly surprised. The vibrations are powerful, and it’s very soft and comfortable. Connection to the app was super easy, [and] it seems to work really well from a far distance—no connection issues. Received within a day or ordering so it’s overall been great."
13. OhMiBod Esca2
OhMiBod Esca2
OhMiBod Esca2
Pros
- Can be controlled via Apple Watch (!!!)
- Comes with storage bag
- Can also be used as a couples vibe
Cons
- Only four pulsation modes
The Esca2 is a wearable internal vibrator that can be controlled across the room or across the world with the OhMiBod app, so the possibilities are pretty much endless. You'll love how the LED light on the tip of the Esca2 functions as visual feedback to signal how strong or mild the vibrations are, plus the fact that it's totally waterproof.
THE REVIEWS: "My boyfriend lives 5 hours away in another state and was able to control it from his phone through the app!" reads one review. "So surprised that this works and really spices things up from afar."
14. We-Vibe Nova 2
Pros
- Two separate motors that let you control the vibrations in each shaft separately
- Lets you create personalized patterns
- Design ensures constant clit contact
Cons
- Several reviewers say the battery life doesn't last long
Tbh, it can be hard to find a vibrator that actually hits all the right spots simultaneously. What's cool about the We-Vibe Nova 2 is that it's flexible, so it can bend into whatever positions feel great for you—and it'll stay there. Also notable: It has two separate motors (one in each shaft) for some nice dual stimulation, and yep, it can be controlled from anywhere thanks to the We-Vibe app.
THE REVIEWS: "I bought the Nova 2 for my lover to replace the original Nova that she wore out," says one tester. "It's her favorite toy and never fails to bring her to multiple orgasms. She's a bigger girl, but it fits her perfectly, and with the new design of being able to bend the main probe, it brings her to orgasm even faster. Since we live apart from each other, the We-Vibe app is very useful in our play sessions, and I have designed a few custom patterns that she really enjoys."
15. Satisfyer Double Wand-er
Pros
- Comes with two changeable head attachments
- 51 (yep!) vibration functions
Cons
- Not that much different than other classic wand vibes on the market
Looking for a magic wand that'll really go the distance? Get this heavy-duty massager from Satisfyer, which comes with two interchangeable heads: a classic round massage attachment, as well as an attachment for stimulating your erogenous zones. It's versatile, it's powerful, and ofc, it's compatible with the Satisfyer Connect app.
THE REVIEWS: One reviewer writes, "Finding the right spot with this sturdy monster was pretty much easier than I had anticipated...[It] makes me go to a body-shaking-deep, toes-to-the-nose, feel-so-freaking-good, inside-out body orgasm, [so I] can't not do back-to-back sessions...[and] the app is great and fun."
16. OhMiBod blueMotion NEX|1
OhMiBod blueMotion NEX|1
OhMiBod blueMotion NEX|1
Pros
- Easy to slip on
- Comes with a cute panty
- "Log your orgasm" feature that lets you rate your orgasm so your partner can see
Cons
- Might be a little loud, according to some reviewers
This wearable vibrator comes with a set of panties and a remote, but the most impressive feature is how it can be used via the OhMiBod app anywhere in the world. Fun fact: The app includes its own chatting and picture sending features with the vibrator controls right in the user interface for easy access.
THE REVIEWS: "I read the other reviews before I picked it up, and I was a little worried about the app, since I was in it for the long-distance functionality. But much to my relief it was so easy to set up and use," one reviewer writes. "Whatever issues they had must have been ironed out, because our play was pretty much seamless. I love that it has so many features—like vibing to music and being able to be used analog as well. That's a lot of versatility in a little package!"
17. LOVENSE Nora
Pros
- Pairs with masturbation sleeve
- Angled shaft to hit all your internal hot spots
Cons
- Only three vibration speeds :(
Want a traditional rabbit vibrator that's also controllable via the LOVENSE app? You got it. Want a rabbit vibrator that also works in tandem with your partner's LOVENSE Max 2 masturbator sleeve to feel like you're both having sex with each other through your toys? Also possible. Pretty neat, huh?
THE REVIEWS: "We have enjoyed every session thanks to Nora's versatility and the ease of use of the LOVENSE app," reads one review. "Her silicone exterior is soft and easy to wash. Battery life is excellent. We definitely recommend this toy to anyone looking for a remote-controlled rabbit, especially for those in long-distance relationships looking to spice things up."
18. Satisfyer Plug-ilicious 2
Satisfyer Plug-ilicious 2
Satisfyer Plug-ilicious 2
Pros
- Great value
- Flared base, so it won't get lost
- Two powerful motors
- 15-year guarantee!
Cons
- Honestly...none? If you love anal play, you can't really go wrong here.
For a long-distance plug option, check out the Satisfyer Plug-ilicious 2. Compatible with the Satisfyer Connect app, this silky butt plug is equipped with two powerful, separately-controlled motors and a wide, flared base, and you'll love exploring the variety of settings and speeds available.
THE REVIEWS: "This little plug is AMAZING," one person raves. "The fact my partner can use this while I control and program the vibration from another location is awesome. The app itself is very easy to navigate and user friendly... I am beyond satisfied with this product, app, and company. 500/5 stars."
19. LOVENSE Hush 2
Pros
- Magnetic charging capabilities
- 1-inch version is great if you're new to anal play
- Lovense Remote App lets you set up unlimited vibration patterns—hell yes
Cons
- Some reviewers say their plugs arrived faulty
- Might be a little too noisy for public use
Another great remote-operated butt plug, the Hush 2 is available in four different size options, depending on your experience level and girth preference. Reviewers love that this bb is super-sleek with rumbly vibes and a flared base, as well as the fact that it can controlled from any distance thanks to the LOVENSE app.
THE REVIEWS: As one reviewer writes, "Big news for lovers of butt stuff! This is the best plug I have ever used! Charged it for a couple hours out of the box, cleaned it (and myself) up, lubed up, then took it for its maiden voyage, and woo boy! The app sync'd up with the plug easily, and I chose the music option, and got my world rocked!"
20. Monster Pub 2
Monster Pub 2
Pros
- Comes with a "Smart Heating" feature that lets you heat! your! vibe!
- Available in three versions designed with different external features (think: ridges on one, bumps on another) for max sensations
- Includes a tiny stand for nightstand dispaly
- Extremely cute
Cons
- Nothing, TBH! Add-to-cart ASAP.
Pls feast your eyes on this U-type wearable vibrator from Monster Pub, because it's a stunner. It's got dual motors, motion control, automatic heating, eight strength levels, unlimited patterns, and SO many other wow-worthy features. And yep, you can take the reins from anywhere on earth with the help of the Monster Pub app.
THE REVIEWS: "This is the most beautiful toy I ever had," says one customer. "I love it so much, [and] the orgasms are so intense. Love to play with my partner with it."
21. Vibease Remote Control Vibrator
Vibease Remote Control Vibrator
Pros
- Can sync to your favorite erotic audiobooks
- Small and quiet, great for on-the-go Os
Cons
- One reviewer mentioned it took awhile for hers to arrive in the mail
Yet another great panty option, you can use this compact vibe to connect to the Vibease app for solo play or long-distance control. Even cooler, there's a huge marketplace of erotic stories that you can listen to hands-free while using your Vibease. We love variety!!
THE REVIEWS: "Super quiet!!" one person notes. "I love that this works for long distance relationships so well! The power and variation is amazing."
22. Monster Pub Magic Kiss
Monster Pub Magic Kiss
Pros
- Feels as close to actual oral as you can get with a sex toy
Cons
- Doesn't come with a warranty
Another fun device from Monster Pub, the Magic Kiss has eight pre-set suction and vibration patterns that'll suck, lick, and vibe to your heart's desire. You'll love the delicate tongue notch, the air-pulsing mouth, the whisper-quiet operation, and the fact that it can be used with the Monster Pub app.
THE REVIEWS: "I lost count of how many times this lil monster got me THERE," one review reads. "Will I ever use another version of this toy? Highly doubtful. This lil monster is cute, discreet, and takes me to another universe. Buy it while you can."
23. MysteryVibe Crescendo 2
Pros
- Six! Motors! In one toy!
- Can bend and twist in multiple ways so you can essentially create your ideal fit
- 16 powerful settings
Cons
- Definitely a bit on the pricier side—but you get SO many functions!
Known as the world's most flexible vibrator, this hiiiighly inventive toy can be bent into just about any shape, allowing it to stimulate all six erogenous zones (!!!) however you'd like. This multi award-winner has got six motors and 16 different power settings, and as a bonus, it can be controlled from up to 30 feet away with the help of the MysteryVibe app. The company is currently working on long-distance version of the app where you will be able to connect with your partner via WiFi, so stay tuned for even more possibilities.
THE REVIEWS: According to one tester, "My Crescendo made me feel whole again. The creativity of the app helps me personalize the vibrations and makes every solo pleasure session is completely different! 6 months in and I am still discovering new ways to orgasm. Thank you, MysteryVibe."
Corinne Sullivan is an Editor at Cosmopolitan, where she covers a variety of beats, including lifestyle, entertainment, relationships, shopping, and more. She can tell you everything you need to know about the love lives of A-listers, the coziest bedsheets, and the sex toys actually worth your $$$. She is also the author of the 2018 novel Indecent. Follow her on Instagram for cute pics of her pup and bébé.
