14 Sex Pillow Positions That’ll Put Your Bod in All the Right Places
Time to put those throw pillows to good use.
If you’ve never known the benefits of a good sex pillow, you, my friend, are missing out on the pure magic of their surprisingly huge difference in how sex feels. These 14 sex pillow positions will help you experience the sublime glory of a well-placed boost.
“Sex pillows are a must-have for any couple wanting to explore new positions,” says founder of Austin Concierge Therapy, Sara Sloan, LMFT, CST, an AASECT-certified marriage and family therapist and certified Imago therapist. Sex pillows (and their cousins, sex wedges and ramps), can help you get your body parts in the right places, put you in positions that wouldn’t normally be doable, and help you discover delightful new angles. “Sex pillows promote play and provide an avenue for creative exploration, while also providing better angles for clitoral and internal/prostate stimulation,” says Sloan. “Many sex pillows also come with kink-friendly add-ons for bondage, vibrators and other toys.” (This over-achieving little pillow has spots for two sex toys.)
Plus, sex pillows are good for you. “They provide more stability during sex, which helps to support the hips, back, neck and other joints. The high-density foam used to make them is stronger and more stabilizing than normal foam or down pillows,” she says. They also can be helpful for differently-abled couples. (And fear not. If your sex pillow budget is zero dollars, you can get lots of the same benefits from regular old pillows.)
Here’s a pillow-fort’s-worth of ways to use them to get your ass into some really amazing places.
Bucking Bronco
Give the penetrating partner an easier time during doggy style by placing a wedge under their knees. “This allows the receiver to lean back against their knees, as if they were reclining in a chair,” says Sloan. (Receiver adjusts their hips back and down, if needed/wanted.) “Their ability to lean back provides clitoral access for continued stimulation and deep-level penetration. This is a great way to end a long week.”
SHOP NOW Liberator Wedge, $105, Babeland
High Rider
Elevate cowgirl (literally and figuratively) with a wedge or pillow under the bottom person’s butt. “This adds both height and elevation, which also allows gravity to help the top partner move forward with more power as desired,” says Sloan. “The wedge also allows the penetrating partner to push upwards in order to enhance internal hot-spot or prostate stimulation. It’s also great for deep penetration.”
SHOP NOW Liberator Ramp, $215, Good Vibrations
Squirting Lotus
Think: the Lotus position (aka Yab Yum) but more bendy. “Instead of both partners sitting up, the receiving partner lays on their back with a pillow under their hips. The top partner is then able to lean down over the bottom partner, to embrace and make out, while the top partner thrusts in a deep forward motion,” says Sloan. “Oftentimes, the angle and the increased intimacy combine to create a full mind body connection that may result in a squirting orgasm.”
SHOP NOW Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, $275, Adam & Eve
The Rock-It Fuel
Flip a pillow onto a curved side and make it into a sex see-saw. Lie face-down with it under your hips for a rocking variation on doggy style, or use it during oral sex to rock and glide your partner along your mouth (or you on their mouth—you'll work it out).
SHOP NOW Liberator Jaz Motion Rocking Sex Position Cushion, $100, Lovehoney
Little Mr/Ms Drama-Free
A pillow that looks super innocent AND holds a big ol' wand vibrator? Yes, please. Straddle that sexy sexy pillow and hump away or lie on your side, wrap your legs around it and share a tender moment while it buzzes away obediently between your legs. Let a partner watch or keep that @#$# to yourself.
SHOP NOW Humphrey Pillow, $160, Lovehoney
Pillow Bound
A pillow with built-in cuffs lets you be decently comfortable within the general discomfort that is BDSM. Use the cuffs to bind ankles or wrists and see what awaits you. Is it a firm slap? A gentle lick up your inner thigh? The tickle of a toy near but not quite close enough to your clit? Guess you'll just have to find out. (You can also opt to not see what awaits you. See also: comes with blindfold.)
SHOP NOW Liberator Whirl Sex Pillow, $180.00, Organic Loven
SHOP NOW Liberator Bond Deluxe Cuff and Blindfold Kit, $70, Organic Loven
Padded Doggy
Stack pillows high on the edge of the bed and lie your upper body down on them, recommends Rashawn Brewster, MS, LMFT, co-founder and co-owner with wife Lori of Elevating Relationships couple-to-couple counseling. Press your legs together to make it better, for you and for you partner if they have a penis. “The pillows pressing against her stomach while her legs are together, create an extra snug fit for the lucky partner from behind,” says Brewster.
Lazy Dog
“If your partner isn’t particularly well-hung, you might prefer this alternative to doggy-style,” says Ashley Harris, a sex and relationship coach and author for BeyondAges. Lie on your stomach with a pillow under your stomach and a pelvis and press your legs tightly together. “This will increase your vagina’s tightness, providing a more snug fit that you’ll both appreciate. You might need another pillow to scream into!”
SHOP NOW Pillo Sex Pillow, $95, Dame
Pillow Pet
Tuck a fabulous vibe between two pillows, press your knees on either side and kneel over your buzzy love. Ride your hands-free lover solo or give your partner a show they will immediately add to their jerk-off reel's greatest hits.
SHOP NOW Wand-Er Woman XXL Wand Vibrator by Satisfyer, $81.69, Overkink
The Half Pipe
Make a cylinder of pillows and straddle it. Put your favorite vibrator on your clit and press against it against the pillow—it'll stay in place. Your partner kneels between your legs and slowly slides a finger inside one (or both) of your holes. Let them feel the squeezes of your orgasm around their finger.
SHOP NOW Lovelife Cuddle, $69, Lovelife
The Deep Plunge
See what a difference geometry can make by propping some pillows under your butt during regular old missionary. But not just a few pillows, a ton (like, throw-pillows-on-a-department-store-display-bed amount), so your hips are even with their penis/strap-on. Slide your ankles up by their neck and they can give you the kind of deep penetration that will make your eyes roll back in your head. If you can rouse yourself, feel free to self-stimulate as you wish.
Valley of Fire
Make a pillow valley with big stiff pillows under your partner’s back, then more under their bent knees and thighs. They
sit in the little sex valley between. You get on your hands and knees to straddle the other big stiff thing (their peen/strap-on) facing away from them. This removes the usual weird angle issues of reverse cowgirl and adds more precise internal stimulation.
The Rampage
The Rampage is kind of like making a grown-up pillow fort, but sooooo worth the extra set-up time. It's extra good for men who are not huge down below because they won't slip out, plus they have a free hand to stimulate you with hand or toy.
SHOP NOW Eve's Ravishing Rose Pleaser, $70, Adam & Eve
The Deep Dog
Put a wedge/heap of pillows at the edge of the bed (careful, now) but instead of lying over with your hips, prop yourself on your knees. If you fit, stretch down to steady yourself on the bed with your hands. Your partner enters standing for a sensation akin to doggy but so....much...more.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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