14 Threesome Sex Positions That’ll Fulfill Your Hottest Fantasies
Whether you’re looking to check this experience off your sexual bucket list or a threesome is just another casual Wednesday for ya, you’re gonna wanna try these—trust.
To be honest, the logistics of getting three naked people in a bed are probably trickier than actually getting everyone into position, but if you’re looking for extra crazy sex positions or more classic threesome sex positions to get everyone’s parts optimally placed, we’ve got you covered. (And you. And also you.) We’ll also help you all get into said bed with maximum hotness and minimal weirdness. You’re welcome!
The first step is figuring out what everyone involved in the threesome wants from the encounter. “Making sure all three of you are on the same page is critical,” says sex educator Rebecca Blanton, aka Auntie Vice, co-host of the Fat Chicks on Top
podcast. “Are you and your person bringing in an unknown third person with the expectation you will never interact with that person again? Are you bringing in a friend you both find hot but neither of you want to pursue a romantic connection with? Are you looking for a third who could be a repeat hookup? People who are thirds in a threesome need their emotional and sexual needs considered. Make sure you talk to the third person about what they want out of the night and respect those boundaries.”
“Some partners think they want a threesome, but haven't thought about all the potential feelings that could manifest after,” says sex educator Shani Hart, certified sexuality coach and co-owner of Hart’s Desires. What happens if someone does catch feelings? What about jealousy? And how can you avoid being the Ross Gellar, left out and eating a sadness sandwich by yourself?
There are a few precautions you can take to prepare for your threesome. First and foremost, discuss your safe sex options and talk about STIs, as well as COVID, monkeypox and whatever else is plaguing us. You’re also going to want to talk about using toys beforehand (here are some great ones for a threesome) instead of busting out a super-sized anal plug as a fun surprise in the middle of your human pretzel position. And last but not least, have an exit plan in place should you, at any point, feel uncomfortable or just not into it anymore. (“Grab your clothes off the floor and exit stage left, fast!” recommends Hart.)
If you’re ready to get at it, here are some great threesome positions for an FFM or FFF situation. (And if your group has two people sporting penises, here are specifics for an MMF scenario.)
The Pony Ride
Try a thigh harness to expand the orgasm possibilities. Hell, try two of them! One person dons a harness with a dildo attached on each thigh, the others hop aboard. “This allows the wearer to play with nipples, bottoms, and kiss the other two people at the same time. It also allows for a female wearer to peg the man while the other woman rides the dildo as well!” says Blanton. “It is also great option for folks with back and knee issues who want to use a strap-on dildo, and for bigger-bodied folks who have had a difficult time finding a waist harness that’s comfortable.” Win-win-win.
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The Assist
“For people who are into cuckold fantasies or if a partner really enjoys voyeurism, this is a great option. One partner sits in a chair nearby and uses a sex toy on themselves while they watch the other two people make out and have sex,” says Blanton. You can also take it another direction by having the chair-sitter direct the action. Blanton recommends a wand vibrator with attachments for internal hot spot stimulation or penis-stroking.
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The Eiffel Tower
According to the hallowed wisdom of the Urban Dictionary, the infamous Eiffel Tower position is generally a MMF scenario, but f*ck the patriarchy—make it your own. The person in the middle is both a giver (of oral) and receiver (of a penis or strap-on, hole choice optional). The two people sides of the tower high five in celebration of their good fortune. Add a tongue vibrator and edible lube if you want to be extra fancy.
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The Switch
Have both your partners get on all fours facing away from you. Lube up your hands and start rubbing and stroking one of your partners’ vulva or penis. When the other one can't take it, they yell “switch” and you start in on them. (If you want to give it a BDSM twist, this works for spankings and other torments as well, but with the receiver calling “switch” when they can’t take it anymore.) It's part game to sort of break the ice, part chance to (literally) fuck everyone up in the best way possible.
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The Guest Star
“This is one of my favorite roles in a threesome,” says Hart. If you’re the third person joining an established couple (often called “the unicorn” because they are so hard to find that they are almost mythical) you can set your own terms. Want everyone to ravish you with mouths, hands, and sex toys? Ask and you shall receive—they'll be more than happy to service you. “All the fun and none of the potential drama,” says Hart.
The Starter Set
If you’re all kind of hesitant about just stripping down and getting to it, there's a whole range of things the three of you can do together that are sexual but don't involve any penetration—and maybe not even any genital touching. Try sprawling out together on a bed, couch, or floor for a mass makeout session (a hot tub works too). If you want to take things further, you can, and if you don't, that's cool too
The Fever Dream
Everyone gets a fine-ass view if you arrange yourselves like so: A penetrating partner enters you from behind, your upper leg draped back and over their hips. The second receiving partner lies on their back so their sexy parts are within kissing distance from your mouth. Another win-win-win situation.
The Puppet Master
Lie next to each other and make out while the penetrating partner kneels between you, fingering you both with extra-lubey hands. As you go deeper into it, you can create a super-hot sexy synergy where it’s just moans and sensations.
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The Watch ’n Learn
Fulfill all kinds of lifelong fantasies at once by going down on your hot third. Do it exactly how you think they’ll like it, based on what you know you like. Your primary partner can easily apply a hand or buzzy toy to you as they stroke themselves, all while auditing the finest master class in oral they will ever behold. Next time they eat you out, you’ll be able to tell if they paid attention.
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The Best Kind of Sandwich
It's the position version of perfect jeans—basic, but versatile enough to work with anything. Lie on top of one partner. Penetrate them with a vibrating strap-on (slide a bullet vibe inside the harness for you) or go analog and just rub together, using fingers as needed. Your M kneels between your legs and picks a hole to enter. Use it as a template—switch out the M with a third F (with or without strap-on), put the guy in the middle if they’re into anal penetration, have the M work on the Fs orally, or whatever your three kinky little hearts desire.
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The Sideliner
If you’re a first-timer, start in a scenario that allows you to observe before joining in. Doggie is great if you’re super shy because it’s easy to “hide” behind the two seasoned pros and watch. Use a hand or toy on yourself and, when/if you feel comfortable, reach over to squeeze some boobs, feel the M’s penis as it slides into the F, or jump in and take their place.
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The Double Down
This is an MFF classic—it’s not too tricky and no one feels left out! The M lies on their back while one F mounts their penis and the other sits (lightly, it’s more of a hover) on their mouth. The two Fs can smooch and play with each other while the M basks in the very thing they’ve been fantasizing about forever. Switch with the other F if you want to change the sensations.
The Daisy Petal
Take turns giving one person an oral overwhelm. Start with you, just because, and sit at the edge of a bed or chair, pushing your knees apart. They can both use their mouths on you at once or take turns, kissing each other between. Trade off after, if you can manage to move.
The Chain Link
If a spontaneous threesome breaks out in the living room, have your third sit on the couch while you get on all fours in front of them for some oral love. When your M is ready (in probably two seconds), they kneel and take you from behind. It’s extra good because everyone gets something and your F feels each of the thrusts via your mouth.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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